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Sex and the Menopause

By Jane Lebbie

Sex and the menopause is a topic where some women feel shy to talk about. It takes guts to open up about it. It’s like, “only the brave” dares touch on this! However, it is fun when we share with like-minded women in forums and workshops. Menopause is a new chapter in a woman’s very intricate and colourful life. Some women start early, some start late and others start accordingly.

The decrease in oestrogen and collagen during the menopausal process lowers the amount of lubrication present in the vagina. Menopausal women and postmenopausal women may notice that they’re not easily aroused and, they may be less sensitive to touching and stroking. That can lead to less interest in sex. How we experienced it and how we have tackled our ways around the subject matter varies according to an individual’s circumstances.

Women’s experiences are very similar where, vaginal dryness causes discomfort during sex. Women may also experience a tightening of the vaginal opening, burning, itching, and dryness (called vaginal atrophy). On the plus side, regular sex helps with the lubrication as it promotes blood circulation to the vagina, which can help the tissue to be healthier.

Frequent sexual activity can have mental and emotional benefits. It can increase the feeling of wellbeing. During sexual activity, hormones are released that produce a sense of wellbeing and pleasure, regardless of whether or not there is an orgasm. Sexual intimacy can help reduce feelings of anxiety and depression as it triggers the release of three mood-boosting chemicals – dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin. It also helps with the emotional bond with your partner. It can improve symptoms associated with thinning vaginal walls/dryness. It also helps to relieve various pains because endorphins are released during sexual activity.

Ways to increase your sex drive:

1. Reduce dryness with moisturisers (applied every two days) and lubricants (applied during intercourse)
2. Talk with your partner about what you like.
3. Rest up. ...
4. Schedule time for sex. ...
5. Spend more time on foreplay.

There is no standard when it comes to sex, explore and learn which sensations are most pleasurable to you and put them into practice. Having an open mind is key to fully enjoying your sexuality. Ask your doctor about using oestrogen creams to reduce vaginal dryness and itching. Water-based vaginal lubricant can help you improve lubrication and have more pleasurable sexual experience.

Your sex life should not stop at menopause, if you don’t want it to. Open your mind and experience new sensations, increase your sexual desire and have pleasurable relationship. A good balanced life would help with the journey. Healthy eating, regular exercise, drinking plenty of water and a good dose of self-compassion. Lastly, if you don’t have a partner, there are various sex toys available and, you can naturally use what you have! (Hand).

It’s been my pleasure sharing sex and the menopause blog with you. What’s your next move?

Manifest your Menopauseness, Embrace it with love! Jane Lebbie

Useful links: -

https://www.webmd.com/menopause/sex-menopause

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/how-sex-changes-after-menopause

https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/menopause/sex-and-menopause-treatment-symptoms

https://www.mymenopausecentre.com/blog/revive-your-sex-drive/

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We offer Life Coaching, Menopause Coaching tailored to your individual or group's needs. Jane Lebbie is not only a coach: she is a trained world class public speaker, certified NLP practitioner, certified Life Coach, Presenter, Group Work Facilitator who delivers self-confidence and other various workshops, Poet, and a well-traveled person with a BA(Hons) Business Administration degree.(London)

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